Saturday, February 16, 2019

Love Map

It wasn't until reading Dr. John Gottman's book The Seven Principles of Making a Marriage Work, that I realized that if I didn't change some things, my marriage could be in some real trouble. I feel fortunate to have gained some really neat insights that I'd love to share as I pick up on them. The latest that I am going to apply to my marriage is the Love Map. It almost sounds like something that a pirate would use, and it really is likely to lead to booty, we're talking about treasure here folks, the greatest treasure being a lasting marriage that can withstand the storms that life has to throw at us. 
So, what is a love map? It's basically a mental map where you've kept the small things, and sometimes big, that make your spouse who they are, their likes, dislikes, desires, dreams, love language, etc. Basically anything that you can retrieve to let them know that you love them. Little things to follow so that when life gets tough, it will lead you back to them. A solid foundation to a deep friendship, which is exactly what Dr. Gottman says leads to a happy marriage.

I was intrigued by the idea of a love map, and had no idea where to begin, thankfully Dr. Gottman is all about sharing the baby steps it takes to make a solid friendship and a love map that will lead to the greatest treasure of friendship and a lasting marriage, it is quite simple, take the time to get to know your spouse all over again, and express gratitude to them. Look for the good in them, and you will find it. I'm learning that like the gospel, it takes simple steps to have lasting results. What are some of your favorite ways to get to know your spouse? How are you making a love map to make your marriage last?

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